Good Morning Church! today will be a topical sermon on forgiveness
We’re going to be talking about forgiveness and more importantly a biblical outlook on it.
I want to start us off with a quote that should set us up we’ll in this time.
“Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness”
WHAT IS FORGIVENESS?
FORGIVENESS - To pardon; to remit, as an offense or debt; to overlook an offense, and treat the offender as not guilty. (Webster)
Minor example When someone cuts you off in traffic and they flip you off like its your fault.
That requires forgiveness
Major example: Or When a drunk driver kills a mother’s two sons on the day that he was released from jail on his 3rd D.W.I.
That also requires forgiveness…
Two different situations with two degrees of pain and yet the same action of forgiveness is required.
Forgiveness can be a difficult thing to navigate at times, because of the severity of the offense or it seems like someone has just wronged us 1 too many times…and in your mind you’ve decided that there is no coming back from that…
but before you justify your unforgiveness in your mind, lets look at what Jesus tells Peter, when he brings up the topic of forgiveness when someone continually sins against you.
So we’re going to read what Jesus told (Peter) & his disciples about forgiveness and the lack there of in the book of Matthew.(Ch. 18, Verses 21-30)
So a bit of background information…
LET’S READ…
Matthew 18:21-30 (whole thing)
The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant
[21] Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?”
The Pharisees taught that a man must be forgiven of sin 3 times and after the third time you can be done with that person. (Wipe Hands)
This is a lot like what we see today! (often times we don’t even keep a person around after they sin against us the first time)
Peter went way beyond the teaching of his day (Only forgiving 3 times) with…forgiving “7” times.
(He probably thought that he was impressing Jesus by going over the “required” amount times to forgive someone)
Jesus raised the bar to something that may have caught Peter off guard.
Look at verse 22
[22] Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.
Some translation have 70 x 7. (490)
When you think about it at the end of the day JESUS wants US to be like him. (every thought, every word, every deed)
CHRIST IS THE STANDARD!!!
(PREACH)
This kind of forgiveness is only possible with God, (pause) as he gives us the power and the ability to forgive.
In essence, Jesus is teaching that we must keep no record of wrong. We must forgive–period.
Doesn’t that (kind of sound like) / remind us of 1 Corinthians 13:5?, "[Love] does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs" (NIV; emphasis mine).
APPLICATION:
TRANSITION
[23] “Therefore the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants. [24] When he began to settle, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. [25] And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made. [26] So the servant fell on his knees, imploring him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.’ [27] And out of pity for him, the master of that servant released him and forgave him the debt.
Here Jesus is illustrating… the Gospel, right in front of his disciples. He compares the kingdom of heaven to this parable.
We see very distinctly the similarity of mankind being in the position of the servant. And because of the Kings mercy, (Grace in Christ) the debt is forgiven.
Jesus explains how we are to live in our proper kingdom (The kingdom of GOD) and not the kingdom of the world.
Jesus used a parable to help the disciples understand that there is a new standard on the earth for His people. (It is no longer a forgive only 3 times)
So here Jesus didn’t specify whether the servant owed 10,000 talents of SILVER OR of GOLD but lets just get a modern dollar amount, for what the servant would owe for silver which is the lesser amount…
10,000 talents of silver = $250,000,000
This is a kind of debt that is so large that the servant would have had to give up everything (WIFE, KIDS, POSSESSIONS) and it still wasn’t enough.
App.
Jesus uses this number of 250,000,000 million dollars to show how much of a debt that this servant had to pay. (Gold 20 billion)
The servant didn’t have a payment plan,
He didn’t have a family member to ask,
The only thing that he could do was plead with the King.
Transition.
So now that we have: Grasped a firm understanding of the impossible 'debt that this servant has been forgiven of and our debt that we have been forgiven of… in Christ.
[28] But when that same servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii, and seizing him, he began to choke him, saying, ‘Pay what you owe.’ [29] So his fellow servant fell down and pleaded with him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you.’ [30] He refused and went and put him in prison until he should pay the debt.
This same servant went out, right after this meeting with the King that he pleaded with (TO HAVE MERCY ON HIM) and found his fellow servant.
So we don’t know if he found his fellow servant by searching for him or not but we do know that this happened right after, he had his encounter with the king.
The servant, upon finding his fellow slave who owed him money 10,000 denarri ($25,000) began to choke him because of this debt.
Not only did he choke him…
Interp.
Do you know how angry you have to be to choke another person? Hitting them is one thing but hindering a person from breathing is another level of angry.
And the reason that he was so angry with his servant is because he owed him money. (a debt) The same thing that he had just been forgiven for.
The forgiven slave was forgiven of a huge debt ($250,000,000) and he locked up his fellow slave because of a ($25,000) debt. (that measured no where close to his.)
The forgiveness that the first servant had been given from his King should have affected his entire life…
Application:
This is how RIDICULOUS we look as Christians when we don’t forgive.
Jesus uses this dollar amount to explain our sin.
Unforgiveness is a pride issue. The servant was unaffected/indifferent to the debt that he owed to the king. Out of that pride/entitlement, he locked up someone who owed $25,000 to his $250,000,000 million
“If you’re in Christ this is what has happened to you. You have been forgiven of an immeasurable debt.”
Unilateral and Transactional forgiveness
Unilateral forgiveness- When you forgive the offender without them knowing.
Transactional forgiveness- Is when someone comes to you seeking for you to forgive them and you give them forgiveness.
Some of you might be in a spot where you have to exercise unilateral forgiveness…
And
Some of you might be in a spot to where you have to exercise transactional forgiveness…
I got the mercy of seeing both of these examples with my parents.
(Grew up in an abusive home, poor, uncared for)
DAD:
I’m still trying to move towards him in love and I have forgiven him and he has never asked for it. And probably never will. He doesn’t believe that he did anything wrong because he said at least he was there.
So he will maybe never ask for forgiveness and I have to be ok with that. Still have a seat for him at my table. That’s unilateral forgiveness that I’m called to have…
MOM:(Transactional)
My first response, “Obviously!”
But because the Lord had been growing my heart for my mom, the spirit and wise counsel made it clear to me, that since I had been forgiven I could forgive.
This was an example of transactional forgiveness. She came to me acknowledging her wrong and searching for forgiveness and out of the freedom of being forgiven in Christ I had the power to forgive her.
App.
American/ worldly forgiveness says: Its a process (I’m working on it, I’m not there yet, I can love them from a distance)
These are phrases that we use as Christians that make life easier on ourselves.
That’s because biblical forgiveness looks like us:
AS WE TAKE STEPS TOWARDS FORGIVENESS.
First let’s talk about:
- When you wrong someone: (Just awful or when there us an argument)
With arguments/conflict:
Ex: Argument with Leny. Even if she started it or whatever I have more often than not sinned somewhere in the matter. (Like Being quick to anger, saying something that doesn’t build her up, not being understanding, etc.)
So even if she started the argument there is still: Sin on both sides
So whenever you wrong someone…“Do not say I’m sorry”
This is hard to do!!!
When we say I’m sorry, its really easy to not mean it.
When it comes to forgiveness:
When someone sins against you:
Remember:
Forgiveness isn’t given because it’s deserved.
But Jesus calls us to forgive from the heart. Not some counterfeit forgiveness.
If you have forgive a person 80% that’s better than 0% but you’re still in sin if you haven’t fully forgiven them.
Some of you might say to me Kam you don’t understand the hurt and pain that they caused me, you’re right I and I wish that I could understand so I could know how to care for you…
I also want to remind you church to not… FORGET that our GOD, is a just judge and whoever sinned against you, know it’s handled.
(LONG PAUSE)
I know that forgiveness can seem like a huge task or something that you’re just unable to work through:
You might be tempted to leave from here saying that its a process for you and not even addressing this heart issue of unforgiveness.
I WANT TO ENCOURAGE YOU TO: NOT, DO THAT, HERE.
Forgiveness is necessary in the life of a believer.
IT ISN’T GIVEN BECAUSE ITS DESERVED!!!
Church if you feel that you just don’t have the power to forgive someone (maybe its the way that they have wronged you) and you just don’t feel as if you are able to find it in yourself to forgive them, you are absolutely right.
(Lower tone)
But if you rely on Christ’s strength and power in you, then and ONLY THEN! will you have the power to forgive. As Jesus says in John 15:5 “Apart
from me you can do nothing” (Emphasis, mine)
Whether its on the drive home, when you’re out eating lunch, or wherever:
When we remind ourself of the gospel and how Christ forgave us for all of the evil that we have done. It becomes a lot easier to ask the Lord for the power to forgive those who have done evil to us.
Let’s pray
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[1] See Bible Hub’s “Weights And Measures.” Calculated amount from a $23 troy ounce price.
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